Many of us have had some experience coaching, be it coaching our peers (perhaps as a captain) or coaching younger players. In the past few weeks I have been privvy to many conversations regarding that one player (or group of players) that steps over the line, exhibits poor behavior/descision making, or is just a general bad apple and is difficult to reign in. I keep hearing about the trials that people are going through in an attempt to correct those players. I know I have my strategy for handling those players before they are too much of a problem. I was curious what strategies you guys have employed. Really I think this question is trying to get at what you all this the relationship between coach and player should be, how you develop that and then how you maintain it.
I guess the right thing for me to do is explain what I did while at Tech. At the time I felt that with a group of people that I knew well as friends, but needed discipline, the way to go was to define the role of coach and separate myself from the players. I wouldn't party with them, no drinking with the underage players, and at practice I ruled with an iron fist. I felt like I didn't have that many problems when it came to player personel/behavior, but I also hada lot of young players who for some reason or another were willing to look at me as a authority figure (I can't wait for one of them to read this and negate all of my statements). Seldom did a player get out of line (bad foul call, mouthing off at a teammate, or not showing up to practice) and when they did I didn't have to do much outside of tell them on the sideline. I never felt like I had to confront someone right away, because that was the type of relationship we had. There were plenty of problems with that team. But discipline wasn't one of them. At the same time, each of you has your own style, which I'm interested in hearing.